The final line is good. Other than that it's more pursuing and waiting for her to get her head out of the fog.
I will share with you my letter that made my W have second thought and returned to try the M again. You have to let them go. Although the points you made in your letter are true about her choices being hers, theat won't have an impact on her.
Here's what I sent my W last year:
You contacted me over a month ago to talk and haven't made any effort. It has become very clear to me and I now get it. You are not attracted to me and haven't been for quite some time. It must feel terrible to think you would want to be with a man you're not in love with or attracted to. I was honestly angry before because I didn't get it, but now I do get it. I don't blame you for leaving if you felt that way. I would want out too if I felt that way about a woman. I now get it. That's why I can't be with you anymore. I can't be with someone who isn't attracted to me. It's time we both move on. All the time I've spent going through this whole process with you has really opened my eyes about a lot of things, I am not sure what I feel about you anymore now either. Once the final draft of the contract is drawn I will be filing the agreement so we can both move on with our lives. I wish you the best for our kids' sake and I truely hope you find what you're looking for in life.
Letting go is the the most powerful way to have an impact on the WAW. You have to mean it though. I was totally prepared to file and move on with my life. This is not a bluff. If you are not ready to move on then she will know you're bluffing. gr8
Country,
There is a HUGE difference between these two letters, both in tone and in substance. You are being given wise advice here by Gr8; please take some time to review both versions, and strongly consider doing what WORKED for someone here.
I'll be honest, I didn't get this either at first. I like to think of myself as somewhat of a "wordsmith," and I can be a very persuasive guy. So I always thought that if I just said THE RIGHT THINGS, in the RIGHT COMBINATION, that my wife would come back to me.
It wasn't until I let her go that she did. Hardest damned thing I ever had to do, too.
