Interesting story gr8. It sounds to me your W was hoping for a "spark." Like you said, she did nothing to change herself. "Not feeling it" because she put in no effort. For someone to be ready to R they need to understand it takes work and committment. It will not just fall in their lap. They won't just "feel it."
Glad you came out the other side stronger and wiser. Is there still an open spot from you if she ever does decide she can put forth the real effort to make things work?
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
