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[JustStunned]

DG, we all have struggled with something like this. In my own sitch this snooping caused me a great deal of pain. It is apparent it is causing you pain as well.

I refused to turn the home computer on. This prevented me from snooping her email and FB.

You are making great baby steps. While you were in the Hospital:

And he proceeds to tell me that he stopped at the store and picked me up some magazines.
I was so touched that he made this gesture, and I made sure to let him know how much I appreciated it.
He stayed with me for almost 2 hours, rubbing my hand (he gives the best hand massages) and even climbed into bed with me and held me for a little bit.

Spending time, gifts, physical contact. Don’t let your anxiety drive this progress away.
Do something making it more difficult for you to check his cell phone records, difficult but not impossible. You’ll still need to exercise some discipline.

You need to detach from the emotion driving this behavior. This is easier said than done, but most of us have had some success. You will too. Resolve to be stronger and do something else to direct your focus to. Immerse yourself in some positive GAL activity. Focus on what you can do quickly, easily, that will have positive impact.

Break the day down to small successes if you need to.
Resolve I will not check this morning I will focus on ??????.
Change your scenery. GAL

I did not check this morning, celebrate the success. Then resolve I will not check this afternoon.
I will do ???? to focus on.
I will not check this evening because I am doing this ???? to improve myself.