Ugh, May. Lots going on here. I'm so very sorry. Let's get this broken down.
Have you figured out your boundaries yet? Meaning, what are you willing to forgive or not forgive? What are you willing to do to save yourself right now?
May, I am glad to hear that you are trying to take care of yourself but I am getting increasingly concerned about your stress level. I know what it is to be lied to in the way you are being lied to. My H did the same exact things yours is doing. I know my stress level. I was not pregnant.
You need to think about your boundaries right now and not out of anger. You are angry right now and you are going to need to let that pass a little.
I want to address what you are saying about letting him see his daughter, but I don't think you are in any frame of mind to have that discussion so we will let that pass for now.
You NEED to detach. For your own sanity. And that might mean that you tell him that if he is lying then he cannot be in the house right now. But you need to start taking control. You also need to keep talking on here. You need to make sure that you let us know how your health is.
I'm sending you big, big hugs right now. I'm praying for you.
