Been doing last resort for about a week now. Not asking about her day, etc. However we still are talking often through the day about dinner, kids activities, a family visit, etc.
The first few days, she seemed to be nice, and asking me about my day and such. Yesterday it changed dramatically. She knew there was a "game" going on, and I knew that she knew. Little talking, very obvious not asking about each others days, etc.
I am worried. I am concerned that she will be perfectly happy living as cold room mates until we can find the right time. I think she will be perfectly happy to never bring up our relationship, the future, possible separation, or counseling, until WHAM, she just lays it on me! I worry that she thinks that my cold behavior makes her feel justified about her choice (to want a divorce), because we have no connection anymore, and this is obvious now. I don't plan to backtrack, but the last 24 hours have been hell for me in that she clearly got to a point to stop an effort to even have normal conversation. Even this morning, she was EXTREMELY cold over a silly little thing. Clearly pissed off. Funny thing is she was not even angry, just cold. I had to ask her if she was mad at me as opposed to her just saying it. She is not likely to bring up our relationship, the future, or counseling, etc. She just isn't like that which means when I stop talking about it, it doesn't get talked about. Kind of freaking out.
Good thing is I am feeling good about my disconnecting and Getting a Life. I am focusing on not being emotionally connected to her, or being attracted to her, and thinking constantly about what my life could and would be like without her, focusing on my kids mostly. Still hard mostly thinking about her with someone else, but the rest I can handle pretty well.
