Take The Long Way Home...

[Denver_2010]

FOBD - I am so sorry to hear this, but what your W told you is just information. You now know where she currently stands. It does not have to mean the end for your M though. It is only over if YOU decide that it is over.

My advice to you:

1) Do not bring the subject of D up when you have contact with you W;

2) If she brings it up, remind her that it is not what you want... short and sweet ... no long speeches about why.

3) If she asks you to help with or pay for filing for a D, politely inform her that you will NOT do either... Tell her that you will cooperate, but will not help end your M.

4) Unfortunately, I have to go back to having the opinion that you need to go very dark for a long period of time. Your W knows where you stand. She needs to see what life will be like if she follows through with a D... that means no FOBD whatsoever.

5) GAL ... Do more things that make FOBD happy...

6) Detach from the situation.

I am still with you FOBD...

BITS
Denver