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#2143411 03/29/11 03:13 AM
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I am not even sure that I want to be here again. I feel both love and hate for my h. Here is a short story of our life. In a relationship 12 years, he left 3 times. The last time he divorced me but came begging and pleading to come home. This was over 3 years ago. We never remarried but felt we would someday.
Daughter bought a beautiful home in another state where we are residing. We agreed to rent it and then as soon as we moved in, I got news from my family that my mom was diagnoised with a mass and would need surgery. I flew to be with my mom for 2 weeks then came home.
Family called again telling me that my mom had cancer and had 2 weeks to live. I flew home again and watched her die. The night my husband picked me up from the airport, he told me he was moving out. I feel that an enemy wouldnt have been as cruel as this. Not sure if I want to be here. I am numb and love him but hate him at the same time

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Wow...I don't even know what to say...I am sorry for your loss of you mother. I will add you to my prayer list.


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T: 15
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Wow....I wish I could say something to make you feel better.
I am very sorry for the loss of your mother.
I will keep you in my prayers.

As for your H....I won't say negative things about him, but shame on him for dumping something like that on you when you needed him the most.

We are all here to support you.


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WHAT? How could he be sooo cold. That is crazy! My thoughts are with you.

NOBODY deserves this type of treatment.

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Wow! That's awful! I am really sorry to hear about your Mom. I will be in prayer for you, too.

I agree with 9 & Brian - NOBODY deserves this.


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Bomb#1: 5/8/2008
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I am truly convinced that there is little human compassion anymore. Everyone has become so selfish it's truly a sad state of affairs.

This was so cruek and I'm sorry. My mom passed away from cancer too, so I understand how painful that in itself is.


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Kee-
I'm so sorry for your losses. Who do you have around you for support?


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Thank- you all for your kind words. His actions have me questioning if I have any fight left in me to save this relationship. I dont know if I have any forgiveness left in me for him. My emotions are so raw anyway, as she passed March 12th. All he said was he was sorry for the bad timing of his actions. We were home less then 1 hour and he said he was leaving. I found out that while I was burying my mother, he was looking for apartments instead of being in town with me and helping me get through my pain. I just needed to talk somewhere and not sure its here as I am not sure I want this relationship

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Well. Kee not knowing the full extent of your r and not wanting to judge but if stunts like that are any indication of who he really is then you might be better without him.

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Kee...Even though this is a marriage saving board, I'm sure there is a lot of support for you here if you want it. I know that several of us wil continue to pray for you as you go through this dark time.


Me: 39
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SS 24
SD: 20
M: 13
T: 15
Bomb: 2/16/11
EA: 2/14/11
Papers Signed 4/13/11
Divorced 5/13/11
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