Michael - Welcome to divorcebusting.com. I'm sorry you are in this situation, but I'm happy for you in that you realize your part in this and that you are willing to change. We are here to support you as you work to bust your divorce.
Backing off a bit is a good thing, if you've been pushing her too much. But--backing off is also part of your particular problem, so you will have to pay attention to times when you should reengage--in a good way, of course. Please make sure your counselor is pro-marriage.
You have a lot of work ahead of you, but I'm proud of you for making those first steps.
