Telling me that he had been talking to a friend (and his current wife)that he works with that had gone through the same things a few years ago (except he ended up with the OW who had been his wife's bestfriend. They had told him that if they could do it all over again they never would have started the affair and that it had destroyed all of their lives. They are okay now years later, but it is always there - always between them the hurt and pain they inflicted on everyone.
Funny you wrote this because I just listened to a clip yesterday of a man who selling his boat and found out that the potential buyer was a well known marriage counselor, this is the story he told.
" He had an affair 35 yrs ago and divorce his wife and married the other woman, even though he is happy with his affairmarriage he said if he could do it all over he would have worked on his marriage.
His reason being that he has had no relationship with his kids that he left behind, he lost everything, them, their respect and friends, because the ripple affect.
The "trade off" was not worth it 35 yrs of not seeing or having a relationship with his kids is really sad.
