I wouldn't ignore it either. Why not do a combo of 2,3 & 4. I wouldn't send the flowers unless you 100% want to send them for yourself and not to get a reaction from W. It is a nice thing to do. I'd go with a few small presents from the kids then a simple card and/or small present from you.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
