I commend you for the way you have handled things. It seems so smooth, and effortless. I am new here, and it is awesome to see how this might play out for you. I wish you the best of luck in regaining your marriage. I am in a similar situation, and working on getting myself in order, so I can too be the rock for my wife to lean on.
Me- 33 W - 27 M - 4 T - 5 SD- 8.5 S- 4 (deceased) D- 2.5