The year of not my problem

[AJM]

OMG. It's like you know me.
For the longest time I have thought those exact thoughts. But I have not been able to figure out how to connect. I've gotten calls from some concerned parents at church suggesting that daughter is "idolizing her mom." and other similar suggestions. I have felt, since daughter's conversation with me about loving her no matter what that this started then and that she was moving away from me. Taking out her frustration and anger on me. "just like I was living with her mom again." Oi. The gift that keeps on giving, right? (I shouldn't joke, but it's that or lose my mind.) I even felt like daughter was trying to take over the role of "mother" with her brother and wondered about that. I noticed she has started saying really mean things to me a little while back such as, "why aren't you dating too?" and "why not sell the house?" but it was the way she said it that really got my attention. She really did say it the same way her mother said things when she was being mean. Like she was channeling or something. Creepy weird.

Thanks Mach. I'll bring that up when I talk with the pastor tomorrow. I do those things now, but feel like I'm at a bit of a dead end at the moment and am very concerned about my daughter. May just be she needs some time, but I'm wondering if I need to take some action in this. She is silent at the moment.

I very much appreciate that feedback. You have really articulated my past 6 months and much of my thinking. I deeply appreciate it.
AJ