While Your Spouse Decides

[Ruikee]

I struggle with this alot lately. In past phone calls, W has gradually gotten angrier, bitter and raised her voice, even as i had not even said anything except hello. it got to the point where she would just hang up on me. Then call back 20 minutes later after she had calmed down. This causes me great anxiety and i have to take a pill. So i have decided to not accept any phone calls, if she leaves a message i respond via text. I had to get reassurance from my pastor that this was ok. He said as long as its for a health issue, which i have to be healthy, mentally, physically, and emotionally for time with my 2YO son, its ok. When it becomes a way to control the conversation or situation then its not ok. Like this morning she called and i started becoming anxious just seeing it was her calling. She left a message to call her, that we need to talk about a few things. I got very anxious. Anyhow dont want to highjack this thread.....