LIS, Grit, I have thought about the questions you posed. Unless I misread them they seem to be different perspectives on the same questions. This is only the first pass. This will modify as my life changes but for now.

I may duck from the pain, but I will not truly be done until W replaces me. I don’t mean some EA or PA. Yes those would hurt. I mean truly replaced me in all aspects of the life we shared.

The D, the loss of the house, property and kid inheritance, OM these are all nails in the coffin, but even cumulatively aren’t enough.

That said I will not pine. I will not spend my life crawled in a corner, I will not eat a round; I will not reward or validate her decision to quit on us.

I will get on with life. I will make the best possible outcome for me

BITS
Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55
D 30
S 27

You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill