This is something I have been thinking about. When I am dark, my texts to her (when she texts me) are very short. I think she takes this as I am mad or don't care about her. But when I am friendly, I get a much better vibe from her. I know my divorce is going to go through, I have to decide how I can be that friend to her. She said she wants to be close and be friends, but I have to wait till she's ready to do that.
