Originally Posted By: HankScopio
This is the hardest stuff for me.

I have seen and felt positive steps over these last few weeks. After the evnts of this weekend I told myself that the pull back was coming and that I was not going to contact W until our family plans in 2 days. She text me today about thanking me for leftovers and say your welcome. I told her on Saturday that I would be getting a new bathing suit this week, (taking kids to indoor water park this week) so I sent her a text:

M: I'm heading soon to buy a bathing suite. You wanna come along and have me model them for ya? (wink emoticon)

W: Yes please with your bright white 6 pack now.

M: I will bet at store at 3, c u there.

W: HaHa have fun, dont buy white you will see through it.

Left it at that. She has not been cold at all when I have talked to her since Saturday.

So what is the hard part? I call to tell kids goodnight tonight and they and W tell me S3 started using potty today and is not wearing diaper. My oldest kids are girls. I am missing out on my boy taking big boy step and it really hurts. I want to be there little man, I really do.


It's crazy how our kids are able to tear us up so much; I'm sorry about you missing out on one of your son's milestones. I haven't read back into your situation, but do you have time with your son? Missing out on my son's life is breaking my heart too, which is why even if my wife goes through with this divorce and moves across the country, I will move for the sake of being close to our boy.

That said, I say cheers to your great conversation with your wife! Keep at it...I wish I was at the same place you are with your wife right now.


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