It's been quite sometime since I posted here, but those of you that have read my saga know that I posted about every 10 minutes over the past few years...from 2005!
I had a horrible ending to a 20 year marriage, and emotionally fell apart as bad as anyone could, not ever imagining that "life has a way of leveling out"
Well, 5 years later and I could not be any different or happier. Got remarried to a wonderful woman in November 2010, bought a new home, and things are great, with the exception of XW's constant need to continue to come out of left field with stuff that “I owe her”, such as 57% of a $20 medical co-pay.
I just paid $1500 extra for D20’s college tuition, because it was due, and XW did not pay what she should have.
She has the need to not let go. I put out $1500 I didn’t need to, and expect nothing in return, because I want nothing to do with her, but she can’t leave me alone.
I bought S12 a new bike. He loved it. He took it home to her house. Within one day she caught him without a helmet, confiscated the bike and “put it some place where he can’t find it” (i.e. at her smarmy boss’s house that she had the affair with while I was in Iraq!)
She bought him a new lacrosse helmet for his birthday, and promptly told him that he could not wear it until he brought home his clothes from my house (because “she can’t supply clothes for two households”….even though she gets $3000/month from me) So there he was, trudging off to XW’s house with two pairs of underwear, a pair of socks and a pair of khaki pants.
I bought him $100 worth of new clothes the next day. If the bike doesn’t reappear, I’ll get him another one! She insists that he call her every night when he is with me, and gives him a ration of sh&t if he doesn’t, even though I pay for his cell phone.
She is such an embarrassing control freak.
Q: “What’s the difference between a Rotweiler and FLTC’s XW?”
A: “Even the Rotweiler eventually lets go!
Even though I am extremely happy and lucky with the soft landing I eventually got, there is a part of me that is still so PTSD’d out from divorce that I think it will take years to be fully “normal”, if I ever get there. I love my new wife to death, but there is a part of your soul that is surgically removed during divorce that doesn’t seem to be able to regenerate.
