Cat - I worried about EVERYTHING! Finally I did start making the first contact and the guys did like it and respond. It was better than nothing. The guys are shy too. Often more than us.
And for the record - I don't have a perfect body. I make the most of what I have - hair, makeup, flattering clothes and then stop worrying about it - few perfect bodies in our age group out there.
Please don't say mean things about me!! (I have to preface what I'm about to say)...
I'm a size 0-2, I work out all the time, blonde hair, blue eyes, cute nose, etc...IT DOESN'T MATTER!! I don't get hit on anymore than anyone else. It's about having confidence and sending out positive vibrations and energy. When I went dancing last weekend I did NOT send out those vibes because I wasn't interested in meeting anyone. I spent the weekend just telling myself to let the powers to be guide the men who come into my life. Guess what? Monday morning....two "potentials" showed up in my eharmony matches. On the computer they sound great and I'm projecting positive energy. I contacted one first, one contacted me first. And, they are not the "pretty boys" I typically pick, but guys who speak to me with their energy. We shall see....
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
thanks for the advise... will think about it... lol, still shy, but I see what you all are saying. Miss having company sometimes more than others... preaching to the choir he?... lol... but only you all can understand my whine
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Grrrrrrrr...... So - get a phone call from promising looking guy online - smart, decent looking, a couple years older than me. We have a nice long talk, conversation flows easily, he sounds like someone I'd like to meet. Finally after almost TWO HOURS of conversation, he says he's not sure he wants to date someone who isn't Jewish. WTF? Shouldn't he have asked about that up front then???
Maybe I SHOULD have accepted the booty call proposition from the twenty-something boy who contacted me today instead..........
Again, for the guys out there - put a photo of yourself SMILING somewhere on your profile!
Got a message from a guy in my town, age-appropriate, a high school English teacher, sounded nice enough. But even though he has five photos of himself up on his profile - in EVERY ONE he has a slightly grumpy looking unsmiling face. What's up with that? I just assume if someone doesn't have at least ONE picture in which they look happy, they're probably not a happy enough person for me....
Ellie: I don't agree. Some people just don't photograph well. And some very questionable people can fake a smile with ease.
Case in point - one of my best girlfriends. Very attractive. Great attitude. NEVER takes a good photo. I have no idea why.
I've noticed lately that most single guys take their own photos and holding the camera at themselves rarely catches them at their best. Wish they'd figure it out and quit posting those silly shots. They need to find a trusting friend or even a sister to take them at their relaxed best.
I agree totally with sunny up there, I could spend a whole hour talking about the horrible choices people make when taking photos... the worst one is using what looks like their wedding photo (they are wearing a tux) and it's obviously cropped to hide the wife, argh!! then there is the silly pose trying to look "funny" ish! ah! the worst picts of all, them with a not-family-member woman hugging, JEEZ come on! why would I be interested in you if you look like you got your hands full already? shees! I don't even bother reading their profiles... there are probably decent guys out there who are clueless about what pict to pose.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
