As JTB said we need to figure out what works. What works for one may not work for another. Each sitch is unique to some extent and it is incredibly difficult to figure out what is working if there is no contact. This is the issue many of us have with going dark. It is the reason I try and take a temp every few weeks and have established a FB.
My original goals have been achieved. They weren’t real ambitious but I am in a better place after three months. Now I need to change up my strategy go dim and look for feedback. Like CS my biggest obstacle is determining if what I am doing is working. So I will look for little things. For example it would be nice if W asked about how I or the dog is doing even to one of the SILs. Or anything else to indicate she is not so me focused. Just one little baby step.
In the mean time life goes on so more GAL. If anything this experience has taught me the value of a life outside of the relationship W that dominated the life W and I shared.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
