Part of the difficulty is the knowledge that my daughter has some choices. Perhpaps that's where the issue is in my head.
are you afraid that she will choose her mother over you because she wants a relationship with her mother? and this is what causes you to coddle? cuz you've been the sole parent for so long .. it hurts to think your child will want to choose her mother over you. i get it.
i think you're doing a great job. instead of dragging her to therapy, start off by going to therapy yourself and discuss ways on how to deal with your daughter.
they might even help you get her into family therapy.
good luck and keep us posted. i'm not always around but i'll drop by and follow up.
