How much longer in Separated?

[jon2911]

Thanks Michelle!

That is so true. Thanks for the outside perspective.

Great day yesterday, long Harley ride, swung by my brother's church in Killeen, then my nephew's baptism in Austin. Fun to show off my new laptop as well.

Last night W called a couple times and I missed them, so I called back around 11:00. It was a fantastic talk. Just felt warm, joking around, talked for about 30 minutes.

Then I mentioned my new laptop, and she got cold immediately. "You bought a stupid computer?" I told her I paid for it from a side job, that my old one was dying. She said my truck is basically shot, that I don't own a house, she worries about me and that I don't take care of basic needs. Along with "I don't need to be telling you what to do with finances". LOL.

This took me by surprise. Maybe it shouldn't have. I've always shared excitement with her, even if I know she's broke. She ended the conversation.

I started working on my truck on Saturday, made some progress, and my friend offered to help me finish next Saturday. I was torn between the plans with W. It's really not an emergency, my motorcycle is just fine, but it is irresponsible to not have a backup.

Just as I was wrestling with this, W called asking if she could come visit tomorrow(!). She scheduled a doctor's appointment before her big trip to New York.

So, it really all worked out. I really wanted to see her before her month-long trip, and it seems she felt the same way.

It is a lesson. I need to keep things under control and live my own life, because I never know what she's going to do. The truck should be fixed already. The taxes should be done. Overall though, I feel good about my jobs, where I am, and excited for the visit.

At this point I'm planning on leaving the laptop discussion alone, but bringing up the D talk while she's in town. Just to quickly say it's not what I want. Will play that by ear.