WAW tearing up our family part II

[OnMyWay]

Wow. Sounds like we are married to the exact same woman.

I think you nail it right on the head. Thanks for the insight. This all makes so much sense.

Something I used to get before she decided to move out: She always said she was "trying," which I believe was code for "this isn't worth that much effort, but I'll see what happens." When I'd call her on it, I'd get the obligatory, "well, I'm still here aren't I?"

Of course, now, she's not. The only time she turns around is when I agree with her and actually push her harder towards her goal. When she repeated said, "I want a divorce" and I finally said, "Ok. Let's get this done this week," would she then say we were going to fast. Or two weeks ago, I got "I'm going to have my attorney draw up papers" during a fight we were having. I calmly came back to her the next day and agreed that was exactly what she needed to do. She hasn't done it.

Have you offered to help your WAW move out yet? Make her comfortable in her new place? Don't know if that would work in your sitch, but I love agreeing with her craziness now. It's like a game for me to watch the exact opposite happen.

I'm still in moderations, so my replies are delayed. Keep posting so I can monitor your results/progress. Your WAW is still around, so you have many more chances at DBing than I do. Good luck with it.