Hi JS! I know it's difficult to deal with someone in MLC, but you have to understand that they don't think they're in MLC, they think they are justified in what they do, no matter how crazy. And, when you're looking in from the outside, you have to feel sorry for that person. At least, you don't have a OM in the picture. That makes it easier, I would think. I don't know why I think this, but if you give your wife some space and time, I think she will come around. I think this divorce could be busted, if you play your cards right; if you love her.
Here are some suggestions ... just throwing out some thoughts:
1. Refuse to sell the house, but negotiate in a way that you can keep it, i.e. less money for her. Why should you be the bad guy selling the home from under your children? Anyway, the market isn't good. Who knows how long it will take to sell, and how much you will get for it?
2. Slow down the D process ... make her do all the work. Do the separation, to protect yourself financially, but then let her do all the work to get the D.
3. If she is so keen to separate, then she should accept all your conditions. So, lets see how much she wants this. She does work, doesn't she? So, she won't starve. Don't give her nothing, but substantially less than she's asking.
Just something to gnaw on.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
