WAW tearing up our family part II

[ironMan]

Hi Everybody.

onMyWay ..... thanks for that post. Sounds like we're in very much the same place.

That is an interesting question you posed. Why would we feel that the W leaving us is a sign that they are not for us? Well, for me, it is because people screw up. In fact, I believe she had another EA, maybe PA ... and has decided that since married people shouldn't do this repeatedly .. she shouldn't be married.

So, my problem with this ... is that it's a sign of weakness. It's one thing to say "listen, I messed up ... and I'm sorry .. what can I do to fix it?". But, that didn't happen with her EA back in '07 either. She can't handle anybody being mad at her ... and handles any sort of criticism about the worst of anybody I know well. Basically, like a child. Therapists say this is because her childhood was messed up.

Listen, I make mistakes ... I've made huge mistakes. And I say "here's what I did ..... it was my fault ... I'm sorry ... I will do what it takes to make it right". It isn't fun to do it, and it isn't comfortable. But, I take my lumps and move on. I own it.

She seems to have decided that just quitting is easier. Ok, fine honey ..... but what choice did the baby get? You want to read any of the reports on how divorce affects children? No, that would be contrary to your plan .... and therefor invalid.

So a life with this person, is probably going to be a life where this happens over and over. So, I guess that part is my fault. I chose a broken person knowingly. But, I always thought she would want to be better. Now, I know different.