empowerment over, just had H pack his bags

[canadianMrs.]

Wow, news travels fast. My phone keeps ringing. I'm turning it off for the day. Everyone who has heard has been wonderful, but its so emotionally draining. I did talk to my BIL and his wife last night. SIL and I are very close. That was a hard conversation, but of all ppl, they are the most upset with H. They are having a family gathering next month and I guess H was told he is no longer welcome and that their children will never be at anything with the OW. His mother has said the same thing about the OW not being welcome.
H and I have been together since we were 16. Our lives, friends, family are so meshed, our families are close (they travel together)etc. I don't expect ppl to take sides or be upset forever, but it will change H's life. I've always been the one to keep these relationships strong and now everyone is rallying around me. H must/will fill very alone. I ALMOST feel bad for him.
Another thing I am struggling with. H seemed so good with all the lies I now question our whole history. Has he been a cheater/liar from the get go. I don't want to believe that, but I don't want to be a fool.