The End is Here!

[OnMyWay]

Bobby,

We are here for you. I agree and corroborate all the above.

Per Scylla: You got time. Breathe.
Per Spin: Divorce is her fantasy; protect yourself. [edited by dbmod: advertising] Time to man-up bro.
Per Hank: Listen to him. My sitch is similar. My WAW came at me hard. I did all the wrong things until I figured it out. Be like Hank and do the right things and this will slow down. Let others (books, counselors, etc.) give her the bad news that D ruins everyone. Let others tell her she's the bad guy for going this route. You keep your mouth shut, which you are already doing.

In my sitch, my WAW came at me with both guns loaded. I agreed, "got on board" and pushed her harder towards HER goal. It actually caused her to pause and put on the brakes. A LRT is a wonderful thing. Everty time I agreed, she'd question her motives. Made her wonder if I was up to something or if she was missing something. A month and a half later, she's talking about moving back home. I'm still 180ing her and say "no." Stupid. Believe NOTHING she tells you! Period.

Get yourself together, NOW. Do not let her set the tone. I hate to repeat myself, but man-up. Get a new job to make some money fast. Loose weight. Get your head on straight. What ever it takes to put you in the best position for you and your kids - whatever that is. Do not let her have drive the conversation. Right now, she's calling the shots. You've got to get hold of yourself and put yourself in charge of you. Put some metal in that spine or yours and hold your own for yourself, while agreeing with everything she says: It takes her power away.

Listen: Whatever happens, it WILL BE okay! But, you've gotta get yourself together. Do it. This is a giant wakeup call for you. It will be the best thing that ever happens to you, regardless of what she does.

And keep posting here. We are here for you. You are not alone. We are all going through this. We will all go through this together. You come here to unload you bad emotions. You come here with your questions. You come here to share your secret victories. Keep posting, no matter what. While the outcome may not be what you think, the end result will be very positive and you will be a better man because of it.

Keep BDing!