You have had too much. it doesn't make what you know, what you feel...a lie. Trust Jody. She has been around a very long time, she has seen an incredible amount. She knows what it will take to get you through this.
Don't worry about your wife's words about you being apart...those word are about her frustrations, about what she will need to do for herself, Jody will help you with that.
It's ok. Don't worry about your wife's words...pay attention to her actions, and report those to Jody...she will help you navigate through solutions that will bring you back together.
Although love isn't always fun, fun often leads to love. Increase the fun between you and your wife.