Hi jbnati, I hope you stay calm and collected through this. I think the advice you got is right about papers being step 2 of 100. It could fall to pieces at any minute. I saw the notes H took after his visit to atty. It was so real and so painful. I don't let myself look through his stuff anymore, because I don't want to hurt myself. Whenever he puts pressure on me, I just keep telling myself "Deal with today, not with what he is threatening for tomorrow." I don't know what state you are in, but in my state we have 20 days to respond to papers being filed which is more than enough time to find a lawyer and think about things. Why do it prematurely and give them the benefit of thinking you are in agreement with them?
One thing I have been firm on is that if he wants this, it must be HIS decision. I will not resign myself to something I don't agree in just because he is threatening me about being difficult. I want to be able to look my kids in eyes and know I did absolutely everything I could to try to save the marriage; he will never be able to do the same.
