Thanks CW. You're right in that my grief is probably superimposed on the frustration I had last week with XH going on vacay. Thank you for that perspective.
I forgot to say that last night while XH and I were chatting at XMIL's bedside I told him that I'd visited her every 2 weeks since he moved out of her house. That was almost 2 years ago. I've never told him or XSIL that before because I wanted the focus to be on my R with XMIL. I always thought that XH would probably see the fresh flower bouquet I brought every time I visited and realize that I had brought them, but I realize that MLC men can be pretty clueless. The conversation flowed naturally in that direction last night so I told him.
