1) Her life is a fantasy right now. EA/PA possible. Divorce is a big fantasy for her.
2) Go to an attorney. Protect yourself RIGHT NOW!!!
3) Talk to your attorney about getting full custody (best income not equal best parent), getting spousal support (you supported her while she was in school, google spousal support Maine), getting a protective order for her to move out of the marital home based on verbal abuse (dropping the bomb in front of the children).
4) By "zipping up the man suit" you can stop her divorce fantasy up short.
5) Get Dr. Glover's No More Mr. Nice Guy, read the book and do the exercises.
