Need Help Bad. I am new to this board so bear with me please Me 48 W 43 M 14.5 S 14 S 11 D 3 Bomb 23 March 2011
My sitch: Morning of Weds the 23 in front of our children states in a angry voice that she definitely wants a divorce.I was stunned as things were lovey dovey 2 days before.Needless to say I was crushed as were my 2 boys. living in the same house but in different rooms acts as if this is nothing for her. Is a facebook/cellphone addict. I am a substitute postal carrier so no benifits and VERY limited hours. W is finishing her masters in social work in may and will be employed immediately upon graduation (ie finacially independent). I believe she is fast tracking this, wants to get into Heavy relationship talk which I avoid for now. She has stated today that she is going to start sorting out things and will get totes for both her and me (translation start packing) Left a "to do" list out in the open saying various things but at the end says make plans to move and has also ordered a book from amazon on divorce for the kids!
I have a copy of DR that I keep close to the chest and have gone as dark as I can being in the same house. I do Not initiate relationship talk,put my energy into the children, do not ask her where she goes,I do not pry into her phone texts,ect.I am following the book closely ,but,With every day she becomes more determined and pushes much harder. She seems drunk on power and control.We have mutual friends who I do not share with but have noticed that they seem kinda cold lately no doubt she has told everyone. Things are steamrolling over me very quickly at this point dont know how to stop her momentum so I can regroup. I am an impatient person and have a temper, She wanted me to get a councelor of my own which I have found recently (she does not know this for fear of seeing me as manipulating)
Throughout our marrige she has vacilated back and forth with everything.Very indecisive.But it seems as if she has every intension of following through with this. I am doing the LRT and have not seen any baby steps for the better. I am doing as best A 180 as I can because this is so fresh. As we all know she probably has planned this for some time.
the result will be
Me in a refrigerator box under a throughway overpass, transient because I make very little money,child support,ect.
W new job good income all the children and possibly a new OM (not really sure about that yet) I am panicking what more should I do to slow the downward spirial that seems to be picking up speed......HELP!
