hang in there. You can do this. Read the list of 180's and re read as many times as yo need to.
my advice it to let him see what life without you will be like. make dinner for your kids and you. If there is any left over for him, then i guess he gets to eat. Do not do his laundry, or clean up after him. If he wants to be separated, well then he has to learn to tae care of himself.
When my wife left, i had to do all that she did for me, it sucked, but i now do it all. It will be tough for him once you stop doing these things.
I cant say this enough, worry about what you can do and change. You cannot change him, while he is in this affair, nothing you say or do will make him stop. He has to do that on his own. Go out, go to the gym, dresss nice all the time, even when just cleanng the house. Make time to see friends and dont give him the details, just tell him, he has the kids and your going out. Dont lie to him, but dont give him any details. let him think your going out on the town.
take care and focus on yourself right now and your children.
