its been a crazy week. things seem to be progressing alone nicely. OM is still being an idiot and hasnt fixed his truck yet. So i drive the kids to see there mom. I do charge my wife $20 bucks a roundtrip for this.
She has said some interesting things to me over the last week. I m going to share one text in particular with you guys.
M: what is going on tonight? is the truck fixed, r u picking them up, am i driving them?
W: the truck is not fixed
M: U have got to be kidding me! when did you start being the quiet type and not pushing to get things done?
**it took her 20 mins. and this is her reply
W: Its not my car, its not my house, i have no say whatgets done, one day when i get my sh#$ together and get my own place i can make these decisions, and yes, i do want to get my on place and yes he wants me 2 as well, but i need a better job or another job first.
So that kinda took me by surprise, i didnt discuss it and just dropped the kids off that night.
Friday was her second court date. She again didnt want me to go with her, i assumed it was because OM was going to take her. Well it turned out that he didnt. She was stressed out and asked if she could have the night to herself and if i would drop the kids off on saturday. I said that she had to tell the kids.
So after 10 mins of her talking with my crying D7 she asked to speak with me. She was in tears as well. She was really upset. I asked her what was wrong and she told me everything, she said she hates what has become of her life, that she has to go back to court in 2 weeks again, and the anxiety is really getting to her.
I started with her court, i told her she needed friends and family who would support her, and she knew i was mad the OM didnt go, but i kept it simple, said i would take her next time and i would book the date off of work on monday. She had no objection.
She has to get a letter from the funeral home providing the date of her grandmothers funeral as that was the reason she used for missing her first court date. I told her i would call on Monday, have them write a letter and she could pick it up on her day off next thursday.
She was crying on the phone the entire time. After i had told her this, i then started to talk to her about her anxiety. I told her a couple o techniques to help with it. I talked calmly with her until she had relaxed a bit. We then just talked about the kids and the dog and the up coming summer plans.
I told her she needed to go for a long walk (one of her favourite things to do) then come ohome have a hot bath and go to bed. She agreed. We said goodbye. She did text me on her walk, thanking me for the support and helping her to feel better.
The best part about this conversation, while she was crying to me on the phone, OM was watching a hockey game and yelling at the tv in the background. Made me feel good that he didnt care about her current emotional state.
