May,

First, my heart goes out to you and big, big hugs. I think you took one of the most important steps in writing down your "baby steps" and goals. I would like to see one more goal, however. Stop asking him to turn his tracking on. i know that is very hard and believe me, I've done the same things. However, at the end of the day, it shows that we are not detached enough and it is ultimately damaging.

You need to be proud of yourself for where you are right now. Very proud. It's very hard to reach out in this type of situation and you've made it over the most difficult hurdle. Just keep talking.

I can't imagine what you are going through being pregnant and going through this. However, taking care of you and your baby needs to be a TOP priority. #1. There almost cannot be a #2 at this time.

In terms of the shower, has he expressed a desire to go???

I'm praying for you.

LIS


Me- 40
H - 43
M - 5
T - 14
Separated 2/5/11