I want to say this in addition to what I wrote above: If there is anyway possible for you and he to stay on friendly terms, and I mean that in the loosest of possible fashions, without punishing yourself or falling for a line that would punish yourself in the way of the settlement, take it.
That may not be possible right now, but you sound as if you have not given him a hard time in any way.
I say this from the standpoint that I am friends with my Ex. It has made life much easier that way, while raising the kids. Our D had nothing to do with an MLC, just young and dumb, and really not suited to each other, but there were hurt feelings, of course. My X now introduces me as his X, somewhat pridefully that he was ever married to me.
I hate to sound like the cynic I am all the time.
My point being, I may sound vicious and vengeful and hateful towards our spouses from time to time, but I am trying to be protective of myself and my friends on this Board. Sometimes, my emotions take a high-dive off the Board. HA-HA.
You are a much calmer and saner woman than I. Just keep the peace as much as you can without selling a piece of yourself in the dealing.
