empowerment over, just had H pack his bags

[Queen_of_Swords]

Dear CdnMrs
I remember how you must be feeling right now.
Please treat yourself gently and with kindness.
Realize and understand deep within yourself that it isn't about you. It isn't about what you did and didn't do, it isn't about how well you loved, or any of your percieved(from his POV) character flaws.

Please, please don't get down on yourself and start stripping away your own self worth or comparing yourself to the OW.
You did the best you knew how to do with the tools you had.
This place is to help you get new tools, new perspective and to address behaviours that may have contributed to situation you're now in.

If I can give you any benefit of my experience that would be it.


Correct what can be corrected behaviourally in yourself for yourself. Look at your interactions with your H to try to understand where your buttons are, where your pain is and start working on you to remove those buttons and heal the pain.

Take care of you and your kids they need you to be their rock right now, as much as you feel like crumbling.

You are going to need help through this. We are here for you.