Rabbit, for your gems I thank you! You always give me so much to digest. I am thinking through what you have had to say and how I best apply this information. It's given me some wonderful food for thought and made me consider alternatives to silence on my part. Thank you!

And now, (before Jack's timely reminder) I've organised a new thread. See you there!!
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