I think that most of our loved ones that know about our situations would also say things like:
Originally Posted By: FellOnBlackDays
"Man, I think what she is doing is wrong and this is horsesh*t. Her behavior at this point is unacceptable."
But despite their well-meaning, they don't know how to DB. I think we can all agree that our spouses during this insanity (yeah, I'm gonna go ahead and say in about half the cases they are insane) do some absolutely ridiculous crap. We know that a lot of times this is NOT the person we married. It's the depression talking, or the MLC talking, or whatever. And so we have to be the strong ones, the logical ones because frankly they lack all logic at this point a lot of times. Our loved ones don't like to see us hurting, but remember that they are helping themselves by saying those things because THEY do not want to feel uncomfortable and sad for you. They mean well, but they know not what they do.
Keep doing your thing, especially if you feel like it's the right thing. Most all of us want to fight for our marriages, despite the "horsesh*t". We know if we can get through this, it's only temporary.
