what do you think you are doing right that brought this on? Or maybe, what do you think is going right between you? Good to analyze your successes every bit as much as areas to improve.
How did you feel about it? I know this kind of thing is/has been difficult for you in the past but judging by what you wrote above it seems to have gone well, no?
I'm guessing the positve interactions with the dancing plays a significant part--it truly has become a partnership. Our instructor has noticed that we dance better together lately, even though we've been dancing together for over six years. At our studio today, the lady instructor was selling an expensive ballroom dress for $250. It's the dress they lent to my W for the competition in January. She jumped at the opportunity.
The other reason I think is the decision I made to join our fitness center last summer, when my W asked me to do so, even though it was over twice as much as the one we belonged to, but hardly used. I was able to convince my W to join me for a third day at the fitness center. I stepped up my fitness routine, as she shared with me some ideas she learned from her trainer.
She shared with me today, that she was in a dark place when she woke, but going to our dance studio always brings her out of it. She also shared with me how much doubt she has in her finding work she could enjoy. This explains her avoidance in going to her job club. I told her that her doubt and fear are understandable, but she must not let that shut her down, otherwise it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. She agreed. I left it at that.
I get anxious whenever the physical intimacy appears on the horizon. I'm going to have to follow thread title and avoid going into old patterns. I too wrestle with faith and doubt.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
