empowerment over, just had H pack his bags

[BeingMe]

So true, dolphin. The apologies are far into the future if you get them at all, canadianMrs. And, he will probably forget a lot of what he is saying and doing now.

Get yourself a life of your own. Find your passion .... take a class, work on improving your career if you have one, hang out with friends more, have fun with your children, travel, go to the gym. These are just examples, some of which I did too, like going back to school.

Give your H space ... detach. And know that this is not your fault. No matter what you may or may not have done in the M, he had no right to break his vows and go outside the M. That is his mistake.

This does sound like MLC. If it is, prepare for a long and difficult journey if you want to keep your M.