So - I've been reading people's stories and they have helped a lot, but I am still unsure what to do about my situation. We've been married 30 years, with all the ups & downs. Have 2 sons now married and on their own. My H travels 3/4 of the year to South America, and I just found out that for the past 5 years, he has had PA with OWmen in several diff countries. His being so absent from our home/marriage caused us both to lead "separate, yet parallel lives", but I never considered having a PA.
Now I am not sure how to proceed. He claims to have cut off relations with all women and wants to work on our marriage, but because I do not have access to his work computer or his smart phone and when he is out of the country, I can't really know what he is doing. I am having a really hard time trusting him.
Has anyone had similar experiences? Where do I go from here?
