Thank you Cas for understanding and Mila for checking in.
OK, I've got a bit of a perplexing situation. For the 15 months of the almost 18 months that H has been gone, I have paid everything associated with my house and property. H has paid C/S right along with no problems.
It was my choice to pay all the bills. There were times I have struggled a bit, but I've managed. I did this to prove to myself I could make it, and as a 180.
Last month during H's and my R talk brought on by me retaining a L, some truth darts were thrown by me. I did mention to him that at least he could admit that the vacations and such that he was taking with ow were because I was paying all that I was. It was not accusatory the way I worded it, but a MLCer could twist it if they wanted to, just like anything else.
Anyway, H paid all my utility bills last month. I nicely thanked him and told him I would pay him back. He told me no, that he would continue to pay them until I got them switched over into my name. I thanked him for his offer, but told him I would continue to pay them as I had been doing, after all it was my choice.
Today I get an email from H telling me that D18 asked him for $100 so she could go to a water park with her friends and do a little shopping at a nearby city. (D18 had asked me for it first and I told her that I was going to be a little tight because utilities and mortgage was due, and to ask her Dad.) In H's email he told me he could give D the money, but asked me if it was possible that I could give her $50 more so she could do a little clothes shopping with her friends. He said he would but that he had just paid all the bills and he was a little tapped out for this paycheck. He said the reason he asked by email is because he didn't want D to expect it if I couldn't do it.
So, he had paid my bills again! I told him thank you and since he had paid the bills I would give her the full $150 for her outing.
NO! he tells me. He knows that Spring Break is coming up for me, (I don't get paid) and to save it towards that. I told him that Spring Break was budgeted in already and that so were the utilities. Since he had paid them I was a little a head and would give D the money.
That's how I left it. Does anybody have any idea why the change of heart on his part? Is it possible that he thinks that if he's nice to me I won't go after my half in the D? I just don't get it! He didn't worry about it before. Anyway, I'm in the process of switching them all over to my name so they come to me instead. I was hoping to avoid it until the D was finished. Easier with the paper.
I did nicely inform him after he paid them in Feb. that I was still going to go for my half as I needed it to live on for the rest of my life. He still paid them.
