I totally understand your confusion because my H is being the same way. Says he doesn't want a divorce, he just needs some time, etc. I try to rack my brain and come up with some idea of what he might be thinking, but then I remind myself that I can't possibly know what he is thinking and I don't want to make any assumptions anyway.
I would take the positives for what they are worth-positives. He says he doesn't want a divorce, well I think that is a positive step. Doesn't mean you should be overly confident that he won't want one in the future, but for now this is a good thing.
As hard as it is, and trust me it seems impossible, try not to focus on what your H wants. Focus on what you can do for you to make yourself a stronger person regardless.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤