What do you MAKE of all this??? Clinging Boomerang

[ninelives]

although I am not one of the sought out vets, I have been on here for a year and a half off and on so I have read alot.

I know how you feel not getting responses right away so I will chime in until you get someone with more expertise.

Fitst let me say this, you need to be as calm and take out the emotion when dealing with WAS. If not , you will make a ton of mistakes as I have. And this is waaay easier said then done.

You contradict yourself in this post btw, you say your husband is not the cheating type and then in the next sentence, you mention an affair he had, if Im reading this right.


Bottom lines here. Never rule out the possibility of an affair.
I was POSITIVE my wife would never do that and I asked her time and time but she denied it and even when she got caught she denied. They are capable of anything and most of the time when they leave, its for someone else or the promise of someone else.

People will tell you to focus on yourself and your children. Be the best YOU that you can be and he will notice. They are always watching to see what you are doing.

Do not beg , cry or plead for him to come back. That will fall on deaf ears and it only empowers them.

BE strong.

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I am a very passionate person that wears his heart on his sleave and that has not served me well in these situations.

Okay, from what I have read so far, your husband appears to be a bit of a cake eater. He wants everything on his terms but I think if you allow this, he will not respect you and find that unattractive in the long term.

You have to be true to yourself and