Hey Rabbit, Thanks for your message. I loved what you said about listening to H. I have been trying to leave him to do the talking and to lead the way (challenging for me who loves a chat and is impatiently wanting to lead it along the path I want to follow).
I have been re-reading DR and thinking through some aspects of insisting that ow is gone before I venture out of the house with H. There are definitely arguments for and against. Although I have some fears I am fairly certain that H is not trying to 'cake-eat'. He is filled with fear and quite frankly following our hours of talking I can see he wants to be certain he is making the right moves. And if I am honest I am not 100% sure of the course of action either!!
To come to watch D swim H has had to pay quite a bit for his flights and take time off work and he knows that Mum will be there so I think this says a bit about his investment. He's not come to this competition before.
H is painfully aware of the hurt he has caused my family and I know he will not want to cause any further hurt to them. So although I have set some boundaries I have also let go to some degree and I have decided to take it day by day and let H lead the way. I have discussed this with Mum and she thinks this seems to be the best option for now.
I was so happy to hear about your 'new, romantic' husband. It's so wonderful to hear. I am sure you never imagined that your relationship could have been so good Congratulations Rabbit. Your patience and determination have really paid off!!
Congratulations Rabbit. Your patience and determination have really paid off!!