My heart goes out to you. You have had so much heartache that has created terrible stress on your marriage. I'm really glad you have great help with Jody and your promarriage counselor.
Did you know that one of the Divorce Busting Centers is right in Woodstock--not that far from you!
Have you read Divorce Remedy or do you have Keeping Love Alive?
Since your wife is willing to work with you, I'd recommend Keeping Love Alive, or even The Marriage Breakthrough--just really great support for your counseling and work with Jody.