Respect is important--in any relationship--including marriage.
I see a LOT of discourse on this topic on the board, especially lately. It's enough that it may be getting in the way of real progress in DBing. Some people are suggesting to another DBer that 'x' (a wide variable of events) means their partner is disrespecting them.
The MAIN focus of DB--is changing our OWN behavior in order to change our spouses's behavior. Focusing on how our spouse has 'swronged us puts the focus in a place that won't help us get where we want to go, won't give us a SOLUTION. Respect is also an INTANGIBLE.
So--if you are feeling disrespected (and don't let anyone else tell you how to feel)...figure out the ACTIONS of your spouse that are making you feel that way. And then focus on changing your spouse's ACTIONS by changing your own. Be specific and POSITIVE. Say what you want your spouse TO DO (not what you want your spouse NOT to do).
If you need help search GOALS on this site--or read about it in DIVORCE REMEDY.
