Crawling out of my hole.

[NotFromThesePart]

I'm now in the full throws of legal #ell. Hired my attorney today, mandatory disclosure this, automatic restraining order that. . . . .It all seems so. . .dumb.

I'm trying to stay above the fray but it is difficult/impossible to do so. W has somehow managed to distance herself since hiring the attorney. At least in some ways. She won't talk about the details of the D at all, but somehow thinks it is on to ask my advice on buying a bicycle? Odd. I'm trying to be a friend to her as best I can. I don't want all the lines of communication to break down, but it is difficult.

I must say I'm petrified by the prospect of the D. We own a house together that is underwater. Unfortunately I made the mistake of buying it w/ only my name on the loan, but both of us on the title. Her credit wasn't good enough to qualify so I applied on my own, but put the house in both our names. Well now her attorney is trying to scare me into taking on all the debt. I have another house from before the marriage and he is effectively trying to put that in play. Because of her poor credit from before the marriage, she is trying to make me pay for everything. The way she sees it, she had the A and wants the D and I will end up losing my house all my assets and destroying my credit. Fun.


On the bright side, I continue to see someone new. We go on dates one or twice a week. I know I am more into her than she me. She wants to move slow, and while parts of me long for an intense physical/committed relationship again, other parts know that now is not the time. I know I'm not completely fooling myself. We do enjoy each other's company and we occasionally fool around a little. There is potential there, but she keeps things in check. In my mind this makes her a good friend and where ever this goes I feel lucky to have her in my life. I realized recently that this is the only person I've ever really "dated" for any extended period of time, that I didn't have sex with by date 4. I don't know what that means. It could mean she's just "not that into me". Or maybe this is something new. :-)