My update: The Acts of service continue.....fried rice coming today.
Texting, skype messaging and emails. One email today was very sentimental about children and when I commented during skype he commented how lucky we are to have such wonderful children.
I am letting H initiate.
H has booked to come to see D swim. My Mum will be there, too. This is HUGE. I think H will use this as a gauge.