Hey thanks....yes she is still involved with OM.....she did initiate a R talk and by the end of the conversation after her noticing my changes...point blank asked me what would be different if we got back together.....I told her no old ways our old M is dead.....I did tell her I would be there to support her through her withdrawal towards the OM. I have been on here about a year and have not always followed the advice given....but everything I read on here is spot on what I am going through.....So I will tread lightly with her...because your right...its my perception of what she thinks....remember she did tell me that she loves me but does not trust me to keep the changes up.....so again thanks for stopping by and I will try to keep updates coming...